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Member ?Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Alberta Posts: 4,079 | No, depression does not cause people to cheat. When someone is in a ****ty marriage, or has depression, or whatever else is wrong in their life, they make choices, just like we all do. Cheating is a choice. The fact that someone chooses to cheat is a result of selfishness, when you get right down to it. They feel entitled, they feel they 'deserve' it somehow. They can rationalize to themselves that something 'caused' it, but by doing so they are failing to take responsibility for it, and failing to admit they have a problem that needs fixing. My husband is a sex addict. But that did not cause him to cheat. HE caused him to cheat. The fact he is a sex addict determined HOW he cheated, but not THAT he cheated. He is also in recovery, which means he is still a sex addict but is no longer cheating. He is taking responsibility for what he did and taking steps to ensure it never happens again. |
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Member ?Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: The Most DANGEROUS City in America! Posts: 1,878 | I'm not a shrink and I've never dealt with depression (either in myself or a family member). Logically, though, it would seem extremely unlikely as Kathy pointed out: Quote:
Fear is a much more LIKELY motivator for an affair. Fear of dying, of not achieving goals, of not being recognized, of not mattering, of not getting what WE think we deserve, of 'missing out', etc. This seems a MUCH MORE LIKELY scenario. 'I will have lived, had children, built my business, died...and in 20-50 years it will all have meant NOTHING. Why did I bother?' As previously pointed out, a sense of entitlement is ALSO found in large measure in cheaters (especially serial cheaters). | |
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I don't believe a truly depressed person would even feel good enough to be sexually attracted to anyone because they don't believe themselves to be attractive. They would only have sex in a relationship out of pure physical need. This is depression, not feeling poorly.
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